As one of the leading Charlottesville employment agencies, Adams & Garth knows work can be stressful enough without having a co-worker who seems to dislike you for no good reason. But the reality of the workplace is that sometimes you have to deal with difficult people. How do you go about it in a professional manner, while still standing your ground? Here are some tips:
Examine Yourself First
When there’s an interpersonal conflict at work, people tend to look at others to blame initially. But you should first look at yourself. Is there a pattern of behavior here? In other words, are you experiencing difficulties with multiple people, or just one solitary co-worker? Look inward first to ensure you’re not over-reacting.
Talk to a Trusted Colleague
It can be shocking when a co-worker treats you poorly. And when you’re in the middle of the situation, it can be hard to remain objective. Talking to a trusted colleague at work can help. Ask them if they’ve noticed the behavior and whether they have any advice for dealing with it.
If you believe it is your co-worker causing the problem, then confront them. Your situation won’t get any better otherwise. When you do, be direct, but professional. Don’t attack, but do ask if there’s something you did to upset them. Oftentimes, people don’t know how their actions and words are impacting others.
By calling attention to their behavior, you’re letting them know you’re upset, but also willing to work on a solution. Worst-case scenario, they’ll deny their actions or try to explain them away.
Limit Your Contact
If problems continue and you can avoid being around your colleague, or working on projects with them, then do so. When you do have to collaborate together, stay on point and only talk about the task at hand. Don’t engage in polite conversation unless absolutely necessary. When you can, use email; just be sure to save a paper trail in case you need to verify any information.
Talk to Your Boss
Going to your boss to complain should be your last resort. However, if you’ve tried every other tactic without success – and the issue is impacting your job satisfaction – then schedule a chat with your boss. Rather than pointing fingers at the person, focus on specific examples of how their behavior is impacting your ability to get work done.
If all else fails and you’re still miserable, consider looking for another job. While you didn’t do anything wrong, your job happiness is on the line. And this situation might be the jumpstart you need to explore better options elsewhere.
If you’re ready to start your search, call Adams & Garth. As one of the leading Charlottesville employment agencies, we partner with top employers throughout Central Virginia to offer you outstanding opportunities in a variety of fields. Contact us today to learn more or search our Charlottesville jobs now.