You offer an idea at a meeting?
It gets shot down.
You stay late to finish up a project?
It goes unnoticed.
You ask for extra responsibility or new projects?
Your co-worker, on the other hand, seems incapable of doing anything wrong and is always on the receiving end of glowing words of praise.
Sound familiar? If it does, you’re not alone. As one of the leading employment agencies in Central Virginia, Adams & Garth knows many workers out there have a boss who plays favorites. While it’s a bitter pill to swallow, there are some steps you can take to handle the situation with grace. Here’s a look:
- Be professional. If your boss is really playing favorites, then they are the one with the issue, not you. So continue to be the polished professional you are and know that the fault doesn’t lie with you (unless it does…in other words, make sure you’re not doing things to earn negative attention, like showing up late).
- Don’t target the favorite. You never know. The “chosen one” may be as uncomfortable with the situation as you are. They may be aware that they are treated differently, but don’t know what to do about it. So while it may be tempting to be uncivil or critical toward them, don’t be. Otherwise, you’ll be seen as singling out the boss’s buddy.
- Talk to your boss. Are you doing a good job? Showing up on time? Getting your work done? Adding value to the team? Then talk to your boss. Come prepared with a list of accomplishments to promote and then simply ask, in light of all that, why you’re not getting more challenging assignments or more responsibility. Be ready to offer help, not make accusations about favoritism.
- Get behind the reason for the favoritism. Knowing the reason might make it easier to swallow. For instance, perhaps the favored employee is an old college buddy. Or maybe he or she and the boss have a lot in common and have struck up a friendship.
- Be patient; your time will come. If the favored employee is really undeserving, your boss will figure it out sooner or later, probably the hard way. So when that time comes, make sure you’re performing well so the boss feels comfortable looking to you to take on more.
Is Favoritism Undermining Your Career?
If it is and you’re ready to make the leap to a new opportunity, let us know. As one of the leading employment agencies in Central Virginia, Adams & Garth will work to get to know you, your background, skills and personality – all so we can match you with job opportunities that are a terrific fit. Search our Central Virginia jobs now or contact us today.